Juggling the demands of a career and a personal life is challenging. Until leaving Disqus in late 2014, I was terrible at it. At that time I took my first real vacation in four years. It was an eye opening experience and I discovered a lot about myself.
One of my chief takeaways was how terrible of a friend I was to all my west coast people. I moved to New York in 2012 running on all cylinders and hadn’t really spoken with many of them since. I lost a lot of friendships because of that. Totally my bad.
The second thing was that I had become a work-a-holic and kind of forgot how to have fun. Having helped Disqus grow from a seedling to this big 1.7 billion page view thing. I grew this weird loyalty to it. I didn’t want to see it fail and would do everything to stop that. Even things outside of my focus, which was bad. I should have focused on the things that are important to me, and not done all the extraneous stuff.
Thirdly, I got fat. I’d work late skipping the gym. This also meant I ate awful things at late hours. I’ve lost 80 pounds since and 50 pounds to go to reach my goal weight. I’m hoping by mid 2016 I’ll be back in shape. It takes forever to lose weight properly, let me tell ya.
Today, I’m a little tubby but happy. Live and learn.